We’re passionate about sharing our personal and professional experience with you.
Shades of Non-Monogamy is a passionate advocate for LOVE & Non-Monogamy, and a dynamic transformative (virtual and in-person) space for folks seeking knowledge, exploration, community and fun related to non-monogamy, intimacy, sex and sexuality.
Our Values
VULNERABILITY / COMPASSION our constant work
NUANCE / CREATIVITY where we like to play
LOVE / FREEDOM / PLEASURE our purpose
COMMUNITY is connection
Meet Melissa
I love to work with and welcome folx (especially heart-centered, pleasure-seeking sensitive folx) who desire emotional, sexual & relational freedom. Drawing from my professional and personal experience, I am excited to help individuals and intimate partners connect with and live out their full unapologetic sexual and relational selves.
In short, my strength is in emotions. I help individuals and intimate partners feel their feelings (especially vulnerable ones) and help them create an intentional and personal practice for emotional self-nurturing; a foundation for emotional grounding and sexual and relational freedom. It's something to feel better, but getting better at feeling is where its at! You are the expert of you and your relationship(s). I show up as a mirror to potential emotional blind spots (with your guidance) and as a sexuality and relationship resource for you as you need.
About me: Fluent in English, knows some Spanish. Latinx- Mexican/Panamanian. Fluid sexuality kinky cis-gendered woman.
Specialties: Non-monogamy, Spiritual’ish practices and stuff, Emotional wellness and practices, Sensitive people/empaths.
Meet Wayne
1971 Washington D.C.- I was born and raised in a culture of hidden and repressed emotions. Through life’s journeys, travel, and gained experiences, I was able to unlearn and let go of a lot of conditioning from childhood around intimacy, sex and relationships.
I have been consciously non-monogamous for about 25 years, including my current relationship and marriage of 19 years.
I absolutely love talking about sex and relationships, especially dating culture and non-monogamy with anyone who is open to engage and explore. My strength lies in my ability to help folks see all the options that are truly in front of them and to help make their desires reality by getting as creative as they want to be.
Passions: Helping new partners identify and confront potential general relationship and/or non-monogamy conflicts and challenges. Helping men to confront their personal struggles in supporting their partner’s desires.
Simmer in all the nuance, hype, fears and erotic juiciness of Non-monogamy.
Growth Mindset
Expansion of attitudes, ideas and beliefs around intimacy and intimate relationships.
Self Exploration
Play with different flavors of non-monogamy- embody your sexual and relational desires, get clear on your personal boundaries and decide on action steps that feel good to you.
Emotional Expansion
Confront your fears and other challenging feelings around Non-monogamy.
Interpersonal Skills
Gain and/or strengthen interpersonal skills: communication, conflict engagement, problem solving, time management, negotiation, etc.
A Bold & Loving Space
Be YOUR FULL SELF and freely and boldly express yourself in a loving, compassionate, intellectual, experiential, playful and sexy community space.
